Tinder, Hitchock, and the Feeling of Rejection

Rejection can be a good thing.   Tinder, Bumble, OK Cupid lessen the feeling of rejection though.   You can swipe left or right on Tinder, but do not have to walk straight up to a girl or guy and risk that he or she may not be interested in you.

I noticed when I was in high school or college (before online dating), more people approached someone they desired at the end of spring semester, the time right before the onset of summer would remove many of the negative consequences in their mind if the situation did not work out, since after all, you didn’t have to see that person who rejected you again for 3 to 4 months.

The famous director, Alfred Hitchcock once said, “There is no terror in the bang, only in the anticipation of it.” When you swipe left or right, you don’t have time to fully feel the terror in the anticipation that you may be rejected.

However, in many other instances, seeking a job, starting a business, bringing up a tough conversation with a friend, making a presentation, there is no Tinder to remove the rejection.   We are left with Mr. Hitchcock’s words, and it seems that if there is no terror in the bang, the key is to do the thing you fear as quickly as possible because when you do, the anticipation of the event is over.

You are then left with a positive experience or a bang, and according to Mr. Hitchcock, the bang is not scary at all.

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